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0-3 Month Update

Florence Grace Bradley-Herd

0-3 Month Update

An absolute cliche but honestly where has the last three months gone?! You don’t feel like a tiny little baby any more and you have changed significantly in three months. Gone are the worries of how our family would change, you have slotted in in the most natural way and it is as if you have always been here. Our darling little girl.

We all joked that you were holding out for your Uncle’s birthday when you hadn’t arrived by your due date… lo and behold you arrived four days overdue, the day of his birthday!

Due date: 22nd July 2018

Birth date: 26th July 2018

You still don’t sleep for longer than three hours in between feeds during the night, but I’m sure that will come with time. During the day you like to have a morning nap which can last anywhere between an hour to three.For the rest of the day you generally ‘cat nap’ which lasts about 20 minutes. We still haven’t mastered putting you down for every sleep (I say we, it’s me, I love the cuddles). We only have to move our arm slightly and one of you eyes pop open to check what we are doing lol.

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You seem to have an internal radar that must set you off just as mummy is sat down to eat, so I’m rarely able to eat a meal with two hands lol. You are quite nosy and love to be watching everything that is going on around you, and can get quite irritated if you aren’t involved! You generally love going out in the pram and the car, which is great because it usually means the school runs are fairly smooth running!

We had some small hurdles to get over during the initial weeks of breastfeeding, but we are both so much better at it now and it is such a lovely bond between us both. You now take a dummy for comfort and struggle taking a bottle for a feed.

The longest we’ve been away from Flo is an hour and a half whilst mummy and daddy go to play badminton on a Sunday, and your Nanna and Grandma have loved spending that time with you.

Florence has definitely found her voice, and even more so in the past week as she’s discovered a new sound she can make- a little squeal of delight! She is such a smiley and happy baby, who loves it when mummy or daddy sing to her. Her whole face lights up when she is babbling away in response to you, and it is so lovely. Florence holds her head really well, and loves to be standing on your lap rather than laid down being held. She likes comfort, whether this be holding your finger or a soft blanket. She has definitely discovered her hands, and often grasps at my hair or daddy’s beard (ouch!).

We have so many daft nicknames that we’ve just picked up along the way and I’m going to include these in each of your updates as a little memory.

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World Mental Health Day

World Mental Health Day

10. 10. 2018

As it is ‘World Mental Health Day’ I thought I would share my experience and thoughts as  I feel it is important to open up the conversation on mental illness in an attempt to end the stigma and together make a change for the better!

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With my first child, I suffered with long term post natal depression. I was terrified they would take my baby away and by speaking out, I’d only be adding fuel to the fire of the teenage mother stereotype. A little older, and dare I say wiser, I now realise that just wasn’t the case. People are there to help, in whatever way they can. I have come to learn that mental illness is not something to shove to the bottom of the pile and hope it goes away if ignored. It also isn’t something to be ashamed about. I am incredibly lucky to have such a strong, supportive and loving network around me that have helped me through my lowest and toughest times, and celebrated with me in my greatest.

But I’m aware that not everyone has this or feels comfortable sharing with close family or friends. It can be daunting speaking to loved ones, so perhaps speaking confidentially with a stranger/health professional could be the first step. There are so many other ways to reach out and receive support, you just need to know how. I have created a small list of websites and helplines at the bottom of this blog post for those that might need it.

There is so much pressure to be perfect and that just isn’t reality. Social media can be powerfully detrimental to one’s mental health as we constantly compare ourselves to others. What we sometimes need to do is take a step back and realise it’s not always real. No one shares photos of their bad days, but that’s not to say they don’t happen. However, the use of social media on days like today can be powerful for a good cause. Using our social platforms to bring important issues to light and share our own experiences in the hope that it helps someone else, even if it is just one person. The more people that talk about it, the more common it is to be heard, and hopefully the easier it then is for people to seek help.

Let’s spread awareness today for World Mental Health Day, but continue to do so in the days, weeks and months that follow.

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Where to seek help:

  • Contact your GP for advice and support
  • Visit http://www.mind.org.uk for information and support
  • Call the Samaritans on 116 123 for  free, 24hr, confidential emotional support

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