Becoming a parent can be a daunting task, and even though this was my second child, it was a completely different experience to having my first. I’ve put together some key things to remember during this period of time with your family, in the hope that it resonates with some of you, whether you are in this position now or have been in the past. It is important to note that everybody is different, and whilst these things have been important to me, they may not work for everyone!
- Accept the help that is offered
I think we are all guilty of trying to juggle to many things at once and spreading ourselves too thinly. This is not the time to try to do everything on your own. Accept the help and support that is offered, whether this is family, friends or health professionals.
I love the quote,
“It takes a village to raise a child”
No one is going to think any less of you as a mother if you reach out for help. Becoming a mother is hard, for anyone and everyone, at any age. You are not the first and you certainly won’t be the last. People are there to help, so take them up on their offers!
- Filter Unwanted Advice
Now I can assure you that people are going to offer you advice left right and centre when you are pregnant or have had your baby. Whilst this is usually coming with the best of intentions, it isn’t always helpful or needed. This is your baby, and believe me, you know what is best for the both of you. Everyone has different ides and experiences, and whilst one mother swears by something, it won’t necessarily work for you. Politely listen and thank others for the advice, but don’t feel bad for not then doing as they suggested. Just like this blog post- not everything will be true for yourself, and it is okay to filter out the parts that don’t help!
- Buy More Muslins
You’ve probably heard people say you need to purchase a few muslin squares for your newborn. This is not the case. Rather, I urge you to accumulate as many muslins as you can, you will NEVER have too many!
- Don’t get caught up in the ‘Mum Awards’
Some mums would lead you to believe there are certified ‘Mum Awards‘ for the best mothers. This is not the case! There are no prizes and there is no such thing as the perfect parent, we all have our good and bad days.
So don’t feel you have to succumb to the social pressures of juggling to much at once, trying to please everyone but yourself. Go with your gut and trust your own judgement. What has worked for one mother will not necessarily work for the next. Each experience is different and nobody is perfect.
- Enjoy Quiet Time
The most important thing during this time is that you and baby are healthy, everything else comes second. So don’t feel guilty about just sitting back and enjoying those precious moments alone as a family with your newborn- as I hate to sound like an overplayed song- but it really does fly by and they’re not babies for long. The guests can wait, the housework can wait, no one will mind- and those that do mind aren’t worth the fuss.
So take the all important time to breathe in their newborn smell, stroke every hair on their heads and stare at the most amazing gift of life that your body has created and birthed. Motherhood is simply amazing!
Thank you for reading.