Motherhood

Top Tips for New Mums

Becoming a parent can be a daunting task, and even though this was my second child, it was a completely different experience to having my first. I’ve put together some key things to remember during this period of time with your family, in the hope that it resonates with some of you, whether you are in this position now or have been in the past. It is important to note that everybody is different, and whilst these things have been important to me, they may not work for everyone!

  • Accept the help that is offered 

I think we are all guilty of trying to juggle to many things at once and spreading ourselves too thinly. This is not the time to try to do everything on your own. Accept the help and support that is offered, whether this is family, friends or health professionals.

I love the quote,

 “It takes a village to raise a child” 

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No one is going to think any less of you as a mother if you reach out for help. Becoming a mother is hard, for anyone and everyone, at any age. You are not the first and you certainly won’t be the last. People are there to help, so take them up on their offers!

 

  • Filter Unwanted Advice

Now I can assure you that people are going to offer you advice left right and centre when you are pregnant or have had your baby. Whilst this is usually coming with the best of intentions, it isn’t always helpful or needed. This is your baby, and believe me, you know what is best for the both of you. Everyone has different ides and experiences, and whilst one mother swears by something, it won’t necessarily work for you. Politely listen and thank others for the advice, but don’t feel bad for not then doing as they suggested. Just like this blog post- not everything will be true for yourself, and it is okay to filter out the parts that don’t help!

  • Buy More Muslins 

You’ve probably heard people say you need to purchase a few muslin squares for your newborn. This is not the case. Rather, I urge you to accumulate as many muslins as you can, you will NEVER have too many!

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  • Don’t get caught up in the ‘Mum Awards’ 

Some mums would lead you to believe there are certified ‘Mum Awards‘ for the best mothers. This is not the case! There are no prizes and there is no such thing as the perfect parent, we all have our good and bad days.

So don’t feel you have to succumb to the social pressures of juggling to much at once, trying to please everyone but yourself. Go with your gut and trust your own judgement. What has worked for one mother will not necessarily work for the next. Each experience is different and nobody is perfect.

  • Enjoy Quiet Time 

The most important thing during this time is that you and baby are healthy, everything else comes second. So don’t feel guilty about just sitting back and enjoying those precious moments alone as a family with your newborn- as I hate to sound like an overplayed song- but it really does fly by and they’re not babies for long. The guests can wait, the housework can wait, no one will mind- and those that do mind aren’t worth the fuss.

So take the all important time to breathe in their newborn smell, stroke every hair on their heads and stare at the most amazing gift of life that your body has created and birthed. Motherhood is simply amazing!

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The Christening

16.09.2018 

Baptism of Kaden & Florence

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We celebrated the Christening of both Kaden and Florence last Sunday at St Thomas’ Church, followed by a small party afterwards. We had such a lovely day and cannot thank everyone enough for coming to celebrate our faith and our children on that special day. It was the first time the families had all been together, and was lovely!

The church service was short and sweet, with a really wonderful vicar leading the baptism. Kaden was brilliant and enjoyed having the attention on him, especially when the vicar let Kaden splash him with water too!

We had chosen Godparents for the children, and would like to thank them for accepting their roles in our children’s lives.

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Florence wore a beautiful white Christening gown, the exact one her Nan Lorraine wore for her Christening day years ago. Although she slept through the majority of the day, she was a little star and couldn’t be more loved by all.

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Kaden thoroughly enjoyed seeing all of his family and friends together for his special day, and was even more overjoyed at all the Lego he received as a result!

It was such a special day spent with the people we love the most, and will definitely be remembered and spoken about for years to come.

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The Summer of 2018

 A roundup of Summer 2018.

JULY

Just as the summer holidays began we were blessed with the safe arrival of our daughter, Florence Grace. So the first few weeks were spent welcoming visitors at home to meet her and send their well wishes. We had our newborn photoshoot when Florence was one week old.

 

AUGUST

Our first ‘big’ trip out for the day was to Skegness. By this point I was comfortable breastfeeding in front of family, but this was a test to get used to breastfeeding publicly. It was fine (thank goodness) and although it’s still a learning process, both me and Florence are getting better at it as it becomes easier with time. We’ve taken Florence to Hunstanton, Leicester and Sheffield for day trips, so she certainly hasn’t been bored!

Kaden spends a lot of time talking and singing with baby Florence, it’s obvious how besotted he is with his little sister. I worried so much about how this new arrival would affect the dynamics of our family, and yet it is as if nothing has changed. Florence has easily entered our world and it feels as if she has always been here somehow. All of our hearts are very full.

We’ve spent time with Mitch’s family as they prepared for Mason to go to University in September.

 

SEPTEMBER

Kaden returns back to school, ready for Year 2. It will be an adjustment back into the school routine from the rather relaxed summer. I am also returning back to one of my jobs this week, I’m looking forward to getting back into it and having something to do during the week! This job involves admin, social media, and website editing, and as I can do most of it from home I don’t mind going back so soon. It will be good to have my mind busy again.

Other exciting things we have planned for September are that both Kaden and Florence are being Christened in just a couple of weeks. It will be lovely to get the family together and celebrate both the children. Then both me and Mitch are getting new tattoos. So there is a lot to look forward too!

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Newborn Photoshoot

Florence’s Newborn Photoshoot

It doesn’t seem like five minutes ago that I was in Luana’s studio having my Maternity Shoot and chatting about pregnancy and how excited I was. Now Florence is here, and we returned to Luana for a Newborn Shoot.

Myself and Mitch are thrilled with the photos and can’t wait to share them with friends and family. Capturing this moment in time, where we became a family of four and welcomed our beautiful baby girl into the world, is so special and these photos will be treasured and used as memories for years to come.

It is completely obvious how smitten we are with baby Florence, especially her big brother.

We couldn’t be happier with the photos and products provided by Luana.

Luana’s Contact Details: 

Facebook: Luana Guttesen Photography & 3d Castings

Instagram: Luanagfoto

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Our New Arrival

Welcome to the world Florence Grace Bradley-Herd.

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Our daughter, Florence made a safe but quick entrance to the world on the 26th of July 2018 at 13:10pm, weighing 8lbs 1oz.

We are all enjoying some family time whilst Mitch is on paternity leave and everyone’s at home. Florence is now one week old and we are all happily adjusting to becoming a family of four and all that entails.

Florence’s big brother Kaden is loving cuddles and kisses.

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Letter to a father to be…

Now it is more than likely the crazy pregnancy hormones, but this post could get a little emotional. More often than not the rush of day to day life can leave us little time for long heartfelt shows of emotion, and so I’ve taken the opportunity to share my thoughts as our due date quickly approaches in the hope to not forget these emotions and feelings.

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To Mitchell, my gorgeous fiancé and father to be.

You willingly came into my life knowing that I came as a pair, with ‘baggage’ as they say. You took on my son, treated him as your own and have since loved us honestly and wholly. The bond and relationship that has grown between the two of you is phenomenal, beautiful and precious. It is easy enough to create a child, but to offer this amount of love and support to a child that is not your own takes a real man, and that you are.

There was not a spec of doubt in my mind that you wouldn’t be a good father. That was why when the time came, and we started talking of having children, I was more than excited to begin this journey with you by my side.

I know that you’re nervous. I’m nervous too. This thing that we planned and lovingly created is finally going to be here, finally going to be real. We are going to be responsible for a brand new, tiny little human and the pressure of that is undeniably huge. The way we choose to parent and guide her will shape her personality and the decisions she makes for years to come. We have made this wonderful gift of life together, this tiny little flower, this precious little thing and she is all ours. She is half of you and half of me, coming into a family with more love than she will ever know.

I know from watching you patiently read to Kaden, guiding him with his homework, helping him build rockets and cars out of lego and making dens all over the house for nerf wars, we’ve got this. You’ve got this.

I cannot wait to see you hold your baby daughter for the first time.

Mitchell, I love you.

 

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Baby Girl 0-3 Month Wardrobe

As my due date approaches, the nesting instinct has well and truly kicked in! I have arranged and rearranged the wardrobe a handful of times in preparation for the arrival of our little girl.

I have kept it nice and simple, with only baby’s 0-3month clothing and accessories displayed to hopefully make it easier for myself, my partner, and my son to be able to easily grab things out of the wardrobe when needed. I aim to do the same once she is in the next size clothing, and so forth.

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In the main section of the wardrobe I have hung her outfits, tops and dresses. I have also used a storage basket to display the muslin cloths and bibs. We have another box in the bedroom for blankets, cot sheets and other accessories.

Going into the first drawer of baby’s wardrobe, as shown in the images above, I have set out all of her:

  • Baby Grows
  • Vests
  • Cardigans
  • Leggings and Shorts
  • Socks and Shoes
  • Frilly Nappy Covers/ Knickers
  • Mittens
  • Hair Accessories

Some of my favourite pieces are definitely her little dresses, frilly socks, shoes and cute cardigans. She is going to be one well dressed baby that is for sure! I cannot wait to meet her.

Did you have any clever storage solutions or ways to organise baby’s clothing and accessories? I would love to hear your thoughts!

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