memories, Motherhood

0-3 Month Update

Florence Grace Bradley-Herd

0-3 Month Update

An absolute cliche but honestly where has the last three months gone?! You don’t feel like a tiny little baby any more and you have changed significantly in three months. Gone are the worries of how our family would change, you have slotted in in the most natural way and it is as if you have always been here. Our darling little girl.

We all joked that you were holding out for your Uncle’s birthday when you hadn’t arrived by your due date… lo and behold you arrived four days overdue, the day of his birthday!

Due date: 22nd July 2018

Birth date: 26th July 2018

You still don’t sleep for longer than three hours in between feeds during the night, but I’m sure that will come with time. During the day you like to have a morning nap which can last anywhere between an hour to three.For the rest of the day you generally ‘cat nap’ which lasts about 20 minutes. We still haven’t mastered putting you down for every sleep (I say we, it’s me, I love the cuddles). We only have to move our arm slightly and one of you eyes pop open to check what we are doing lol.

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You seem to have an internal radar that must set you off just as mummy is sat down to eat, so I’m rarely able to eat a meal with two hands lol. You are quite nosy and love to be watching everything that is going on around you, and can get quite irritated if you aren’t involved! You generally love going out in the pram and the car, which is great because it usually means the school runs are fairly smooth running!

We had some small hurdles to get over during the initial weeks of breastfeeding, but we are both so much better at it now and it is such a lovely bond between us both. You now take a dummy for comfort and struggle taking a bottle for a feed.

The longest we’ve been away from Flo is an hour and a half whilst mummy and daddy go to play badminton on a Sunday, and your Nanna and Grandma have loved spending that time with you.

Florence has definitely found her voice, and even more so in the past week as she’s discovered a new sound she can make- a little squeal of delight! She is such a smiley and happy baby, who loves it when mummy or daddy sing to her. Her whole face lights up when she is babbling away in response to you, and it is so lovely. Florence holds her head really well, and loves to be standing on your lap rather than laid down being held. She likes comfort, whether this be holding your finger or a soft blanket. She has definitely discovered her hands, and often grasps at my hair or daddy’s beard (ouch!).

We have so many daft nicknames that we’ve just picked up along the way and I’m going to include these in each of your updates as a little memory.

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Thank you for reading. 

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Motherhood, Tattoos

Tattoos & Breastfeeding

This blog post is about getting tattoos whilst being a breastfeeding mother. Although this is quite a niche topic, I found that when searching for answers myself there was little to no reliable information out there to help. Therefore, hopefully this will help someone searching for particular answers on this topic.

Mitchell and I had booked tattoos as part of my ‘pushing present‘ for having Florence. (If you know, you know lol) I didn’t have a baby shower, so thought I would at least make the most out of one of these American pregnancy traditions! However, when the time actually came I suddenly had a little panic over whether or not I would even be able to get mine done as I was breastfeeding. After a quick google I was left even more unsure about whether it was safe to go ahead or if I would need to cancel and have them done once I was no longer breastfeeding Florence.

It was only after speaking to my tattooist (and him speaking his partner who’s a midwife) that is was agreed we were completely fine to go ahead as long as I fully understood the information. I was told that getting the tattoo itself is absolutely fine as the ink does not transfer into the milk. Obviously choose to go to a respectable and clean tattooist to minimise any chance of infection, as it is only if the tattoo becomes infected and you have to go on antibiotics you will have to stop breastfeeding.

Thank you for reading. 

 

Motherhood

Top Tips for New Mums

Becoming a parent can be a daunting task, and even though this was my second child, it was a completely different experience to having my first. I’ve put together some key things to remember during this period of time with your family, in the hope that it resonates with some of you, whether you are in this position now or have been in the past. It is important to note that everybody is different, and whilst these things have been important to me, they may not work for everyone!

  • Accept the help that is offered 

I think we are all guilty of trying to juggle to many things at once and spreading ourselves too thinly. This is not the time to try to do everything on your own. Accept the help and support that is offered, whether this is family, friends or health professionals.

I love the quote,

 “It takes a village to raise a child” 

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No one is going to think any less of you as a mother if you reach out for help. Becoming a mother is hard, for anyone and everyone, at any age. You are not the first and you certainly won’t be the last. People are there to help, so take them up on their offers!

 

  • Filter Unwanted Advice

Now I can assure you that people are going to offer you advice left right and centre when you are pregnant or have had your baby. Whilst this is usually coming with the best of intentions, it isn’t always helpful or needed. This is your baby, and believe me, you know what is best for the both of you. Everyone has different ides and experiences, and whilst one mother swears by something, it won’t necessarily work for you. Politely listen and thank others for the advice, but don’t feel bad for not then doing as they suggested. Just like this blog post- not everything will be true for yourself, and it is okay to filter out the parts that don’t help!

  • Buy More Muslins 

You’ve probably heard people say you need to purchase a few muslin squares for your newborn. This is not the case. Rather, I urge you to accumulate as many muslins as you can, you will NEVER have too many!

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  • Don’t get caught up in the ‘Mum Awards’ 

Some mums would lead you to believe there are certified ‘Mum Awards‘ for the best mothers. This is not the case! There are no prizes and there is no such thing as the perfect parent, we all have our good and bad days.

So don’t feel you have to succumb to the social pressures of juggling to much at once, trying to please everyone but yourself. Go with your gut and trust your own judgement. What has worked for one mother will not necessarily work for the next. Each experience is different and nobody is perfect.

  • Enjoy Quiet Time 

The most important thing during this time is that you and baby are healthy, everything else comes second. So don’t feel guilty about just sitting back and enjoying those precious moments alone as a family with your newborn- as I hate to sound like an overplayed song- but it really does fly by and they’re not babies for long. The guests can wait, the housework can wait, no one will mind- and those that do mind aren’t worth the fuss.

So take the all important time to breathe in their newborn smell, stroke every hair on their heads and stare at the most amazing gift of life that your body has created and birthed. Motherhood is simply amazing!

Thank you for reading. 

memories, Motherhood

The Christening

16.09.2018 

Baptism of Kaden & Florence

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We celebrated the Christening of both Kaden and Florence last Sunday at St Thomas’ Church, followed by a small party afterwards. We had such a lovely day and cannot thank everyone enough for coming to celebrate our faith and our children on that special day. It was the first time the families had all been together, and was lovely!

The church service was short and sweet, with a really wonderful vicar leading the baptism. Kaden was brilliant and enjoyed having the attention on him, especially when the vicar let Kaden splash him with water too!

We had chosen Godparents for the children, and would like to thank them for accepting their roles in our children’s lives.

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Florence wore a beautiful white Christening gown, the exact one her Nan Lorraine wore for her Christening day years ago. Although she slept through the majority of the day, she was a little star and couldn’t be more loved by all.

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Kaden thoroughly enjoyed seeing all of his family and friends together for his special day, and was even more overjoyed at all the Lego he received as a result!

It was such a special day spent with the people we love the most, and will definitely be remembered and spoken about for years to come.

Thank you for reading. 

Motherhood

Newborn Photoshoot

Florence’s Newborn Photoshoot

It doesn’t seem like five minutes ago that I was in Luana’s studio having my Maternity Shoot and chatting about pregnancy and how excited I was. Now Florence is here, and we returned to Luana for a Newborn Shoot.

Myself and Mitch are thrilled with the photos and can’t wait to share them with friends and family. Capturing this moment in time, where we became a family of four and welcomed our beautiful baby girl into the world, is so special and these photos will be treasured and used as memories for years to come.

It is completely obvious how smitten we are with baby Florence, especially her big brother.

We couldn’t be happier with the photos and products provided by Luana.

Luana’s Contact Details: 

Facebook: Luana Guttesen Photography & 3d Castings

Instagram: Luanagfoto

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Motherhood

Our New Arrival

Welcome to the world Florence Grace Bradley-Herd.

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Our daughter, Florence made a safe but quick entrance to the world on the 26th of July 2018 at 13:10pm, weighing 8lbs 1oz.

We are all enjoying some family time whilst Mitch is on paternity leave and everyone’s at home. Florence is now one week old and we are all happily adjusting to becoming a family of four and all that entails.

Florence’s big brother Kaden is loving cuddles and kisses.

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Motherhood

Letter to a father to be…

Now it is more than likely the crazy pregnancy hormones, but this post could get a little emotional. More often than not the rush of day to day life can leave us little time for long heartfelt shows of emotion, and so I’ve taken the opportunity to share my thoughts as our due date quickly approaches in the hope to not forget these emotions and feelings.

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To Mitchell, my gorgeous fiancé and father to be.

You willingly came into my life knowing that I came as a pair, with ‘baggage’ as they say. You took on my son, treated him as your own and have since loved us honestly and wholly. The bond and relationship that has grown between the two of you is phenomenal, beautiful and precious. It is easy enough to create a child, but to offer this amount of love and support to a child that is not your own takes a real man, and that you are.

There was not a spec of doubt in my mind that you wouldn’t be a good father. That was why when the time came, and we started talking of having children, I was more than excited to begin this journey with you by my side.

I know that you’re nervous. I’m nervous too. This thing that we planned and lovingly created is finally going to be here, finally going to be real. We are going to be responsible for a brand new, tiny little human and the pressure of that is undeniably huge. The way we choose to parent and guide her will shape her personality and the decisions she makes for years to come. We have made this wonderful gift of life together, this tiny little flower, this precious little thing and she is all ours. She is half of you and half of me, coming into a family with more love than she will ever know.

I know from watching you patiently read to Kaden, guiding him with his homework, helping him build rockets and cars out of lego and making dens all over the house for nerf wars, we’ve got this. You’ve got this.

I cannot wait to see you hold your baby daughter for the first time.

Mitchell, I love you.